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22 June 2008 @ 02:13 pm
Some Solstice Clarity...FINALLY!!!  
Okay, so I listened to a WONDERFUL training by THG's founder, Annette Pelliccio (featured in the little vid on my care2 site) that she calls "Goal-Setting Plus." It's based on work by John Kalench. Now, normally I'm sick and tired of the word 'goal', having spent YEARS in the self-development industry. Plus, I consider it a rather masculine, dry word and feel more attuned to more feminine language such as 'intentions'.

But the training was WONDERFUL, like I said, and today I felt very inspired to sit down and write out my results. After I was done, I felt like I got so much out of it that I wanted some way to share it with others, both so that maybe I can get some encouragement and support along the way, and so that others can possibly use the same program to help them get clarity on their own paths.

So, without further ado, here's what I came up with:

June 22, 2008

WHY I'm doing this:

I'm tired of working in the etheric. I want to bring what I've learned into the practical. I want to help teens in a grounded, daily way in their physical world, as well as help them to learn to master their nonphysical (spiritual) world. When I worked for others in the past, I was missing the spiritual (nonphysical) side. I've spent the last seven years immersed in the spiritual, and now I want to re-enter the work world with a balance of both the nonphysical and the physical aspects of helping. I have come to believe that spirituality is simply the understanding and mastery of the nonphysical part of our existence. Our energy systems, the thoughts and feelings that create our reality, and the nonphysical beings and structures that share our existence with us and affect our physical lives. I believe in Higher Power, in a greater soul-self as well as the One Spirit or Creator Consciousness from which we all come. I believe we can call it any number of names, whatever serves us most to empower and uplift our lives at any given time. I also believe there are nonphysical beings that interact with us on nonphysical and physical levels, and that learning about and communicating with these beings can make our lives much richer. "There are more things in Heaven and Earth, Horatio, than are dreamt of in your philosophy." THAT is what I believe.

Legacy Statement: I want to leave behind people who have found their passion and purpose and are living it joyfully, healthfully, and successfully. I want to leave behind people who have switched from toxic, chemically-laden lives to more natural and healthy ones. I want to leave behind people whose lives were changed as teenagers; who met me on a crossroads of their lives and made changes that led to lives of happiness and health. I want to leave behind a community (at least one) that has vastly improved resources for teenagers and autistic children, that is a much more wonderful place to live because of what I have helped to create.

My Core Values:


"I always live in a way that expresses and honors my authentic self and encourages others to do the same."


"I always act and communicate in a way that empowers others and myself."


"I always honor and follow my passions and encourage others to do the same."


"I always honor my creativity and use it to fill my life and the lives of others with joy."


"I always honor and respect the act of having fun, and seek ways to have lots of it in my life."


"I always live my truth and speak my truth and encourage others to do the same. I believe 'the truth will set us free, but first it will piss us off.'" (Gloria Steinam)


"I always seek to bring justice to the world, acting in a way that is fair to others and myself and seeking ways to bring equality to those around me."

Life Goals:

Family - I want to make life easier, more peaceful, and more joyful for my mate. I want my daughter to have more variety, stimulation, and social interaction in her life. I want her to be happy and healthy and have what she wants that is for her highest good. I want a closer relationship with my sister.

Spirituality - I want to take what I've learned and make it even more practical than ever before. I want to seemlessly integrate the spiritual, that is, nonphysical, side of my life with the physical side, so there are no sides, just a perfect whole.

Friendships - I want to have at least three good friends that I stay in touch with on a weekly basis, whose lives I know about and am a support in, and who know about my life and are a support in it as well.

Sidenote: I want to have a well-furnished house so that I can have guests for dinner and to stay over, and for parties and other get-togethers. I want to be proud of my home and for it to be comfortable and fun for my guests.

Love Relationship - I want to be able to have private time with my mate for dates, in order to strengthen our partnership. I want to take the burden of my emotional issues off her shoulders and give her more peace and ease.

Physical Health - I want to reach a healthy, lower weight. I want a strong, lean, energetic body that feels great to be in and move. I want to find fun, interesting ways to move in my daily life, and I want to feel good always. I want to look radiant, healthy, and naturally beautiful.

Community/World Service - I want to bring more resources and options to the coast for autistic kids and for teenagers. I want to help people get away from toxic products and replace them with natural, healthy ones.

Education - I want to complete my M.S. in Holistic Nutrition in a way that is stimulating and fun, and to continue learning whatever catches my passion at any given time. I want to be able to take whatever training most appeals to me at any given time. And I want to be able to USE what I've learned in my daily work, to make a great living changing people's lives for the better.

Work - I want to be one of the best at what I do. I want to feel excited and challenged by my work always. I want to love it. I want to be surrounded with people who are not about perfection, but excellence. I want to feel close to my co-workers, inspired by them, and supported by them. I want to make a daily, observable positive difference in the lives of those I serve with my talents and training. I want to make a great living with what I do, and never have to worry about having enough money for the things I want and need again. I want to always feel like I am using my special gifts and abilities in my work, and that others appreciate and admire me for what I bring.

1, 5, and 10 yr plan:

At the end of one year, I want to have paid my bills consistently for several months without struggle. I want to be immersed joyfully in my studies at Clayton College. I want to feel confident and supremely competent at my job, and be building a reputation as one of the best. I want to have someone come in and do housework at least once a month. I want to have a loving respite care worker and babysitter that we trust totally and feel a true heart connection with and that my daughter truly enjoys having around. I want to have finished furnishing the house so that it meets our needs and is truly a haven to live in. I want to have collected a new wardrobe of clothes that are flattering and comfortable.

At the end of 5 years...I don't know. I can't do this one right now... Maybe that's why my life has never really improved dramatically over the past five years...it has changed, absolutely transformed, but not really improved the way I'd want it to. But how would I want it to? Maybe the fact that I've never, ever defined that has gotten me here... Okay. I'll give this a shot:

In five years, I want to own two great new cars that are easy on the environment, good looking, and fun to drive. I want to live in a house that feels wonderful, is filled with things I love, and meets all my needs and those of my family. I want to have a wardrobe filled with beautiful, natural, comfortable clothes. I want to have found the key to natural, joyful fitness and be around 150 pounds, with an active life. I want to have a solid circle of friends that I can hang out with and have a good time with, and who help me network to meet my professional needs. I want to be a valued, admired part of my community. I want to know lots of people in my community and truly feel like it's MINE. I want to be eating all natural, organic, whole foods, some of which I grow myself, others of which I get from local sources. I want to have an income of $6,000 per month or more, combined with my mate's, and to feel it is solid and secure. I want to have all old bills except my student loan paid off. I would love to have my student loan forgiven completely. I want to have a reputation as someone who is clever, loving, creative, and is truly making a difference in people's lives. I want people to want to be around me and want me on their teams. I want to be involved in all kinds of different things, but never overcommitted, just happily busy. I want to have brought all kinds of new resources to my community to make it a much better place for autistic kids and teenagers. I want to have made a positive difference in the lives of hundreds or even thousands of people, and to be appreciated for it.

In ten years, I want to have established a solid, steady, secure income of at least $10,000 per month. I want to live in a home that feels absolutely perfect for my needs, like I could not live anywhere better for me. I want to have met all kinds of fascinating, wonderful people and have been instrumental in bringing wonderful, positive change to my community and the world. I want to be known for all the positive changes I helped bring about. I want to be a respected, loved, well-known member of the community that people think of whenever they want to make something new and wonderful happen. I want to know all kinds of people everywhere and be able to bring people, money, and other resources together quickly to create new things that make the world a better place.

Wow. I didn't think I could do that. And I can hardly believe how different it feels to have done it. Especially the community part. I didn't realize, until I began writing, how important it was to me to become a member of my community and to make significant contributions to it! I honestly had no idea. Knowing this helps me know what to do when I feel like I should live somewhere else. I don't think moving will meet my needs, because what I enjoy most is bringing new things to a place that needs them. And what I want most is to make myself solidly a member of a community. Staying here and improving THIS place will meet both of those needs. So moving on is not a good choice. This is a relief to realize, because I've wondered if I should live somewhere with resources already in place. Writing this, and getting in touch with what I really want, clarifies that for me. No, I should create those resources here, not only for myself, but for everyone else as well. That is what will bring me the most joy and fulfillment, not only when they're in place, but during the process of creating them. That's who I am.

Like I said. Wow. What a process.

Thank you to anyone curious enough to read this far. :-)

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Current Music: Times Like These (Foo Fighters)
Michellesolitarydancer on June 24th, 2008 01:14 am (UTC)
Wow! Just ... wow! I love it! What a thorough explanation, plan, list of intentions ... just ... wow! I think I'm feeling rather inspired, and that's a far cry from how I have BEEN feeling lately in my own life. :-) Thanks for posting!
Satinadharmaworker on June 24th, 2008 04:31 pm (UTC)
Thanks for reading it! I'm so happy that it did so much for you! I'd love to read yours, if you're willing, when you're done! :-) I can give you more details on how the process works, if you want, too. Just drop me a line. I also want to say, you're not alone in feeling uninspired lately, either. This solstice felt really...crappy. Emotionally and physically. So you're not alone, and I hope you can get some of the clarity I'm getting. :-)
Michellesolitarydancer on June 25th, 2008 02:32 am (UTC)
Re: Thanks!
Sure! I'd love to put one together and will gladly take you up on your offer for more details. You are welcome to send info to my LJ address (solitarydancer@livejournal.com) or post here or whatever works for you.

Somehow, there is a bit of comfort knowing that others are in the same "funk". It's like a hazy veil that I keep ripping at but can't seem to break through completely.

Know that I always get something out of your posts even if I do not leave a tangible response. :-)
Satinadharmaworker on June 26th, 2008 05:17 am (UTC)
Re: Thanks!
Thank you for the sweet words and support. :-) Okay, the first part is your Legacy Statement. What do you want to leave behind? What impact do you want to have on the world?

The second part is your Core Values. 5 - 8 core values that are most important to you in your life. List them, then for each one, write a sentence that begins with, "I always..."

Third part is your Life Goals, which are for 8 areas of your life:

Love Relationship
Physical Health
Community/World Service

Then your 1 year, 5 year, and 10 year plan.

I'd love to see yours when you finish it. :-) You're supposed to read over it every day, maybe once in teh morning and once at night, to keep you focused and manifesting strongly. I hope you're feeling more and more energy movement as we move on past this solstice. Today was a day of incredible clarity and movement for me and for my partner, and I hope you felt that, too. :-) But I will say it started with some panic and strong negative emotion that needed expressed and moved through first...so if that's the case for you, make sure you expess that stuff so you can make room for the new stuff. :-)

Michellesolitarydancer on June 29th, 2008 10:17 pm (UTC)
Re: Thanks!
Okay - I will work on this and will post once complete. :-) Thank you!